Men the world over face the same dilemma, a woman is going to judge you whether you are worthy of her or not. Yep, that’s the fact Jack.
It’s an unfortunate truth, no matter what country you live in. Yes, sure there are several different cultural differences around the world. But at the heart of it, She’s judging you.
Back in the cavemen days it was who had the biggest club, or wore the fanciest fur. As time progressed, into the medieval ages. It was more about who had the biggest herd of cattle, or the biggest hut.
Modern days, it’s all about WEALTH or STATUS. Things like, who can pay the bills, who provides the most security, who has the most Instagram likes.
So the question for you is – Should you judge her. ?
The simple answer is yes, you bloody well should. Generally, as modern days have rolled around, men have become more submissive to women.
Men have stopped being the man of the household, and have become a whiny, soft, weak bunch of pussy-whipped pansies.
Here’s how to identify if you fit into the category –
How does she talk to you?
There is a big difference in being talked too, and being talked at. To illustrate that point –
Being talked too –
Hi, how was your day, did you have any trouble closing the smith account at work?
Being talked at –
The words you are using are wrong, you should say blah blah blah.
She questions your decisions.
You decide to buy a cheap to run a convenient car because that’s what you have budgeted for.
She pulls apart your decision and asks what the hell where you thinking, she won’t be seen in a car like that.
You defer to her at all times
You decide to make a career change, you ask if that’s OK. – Blokes to be plain and simple here, its not her business what you do. Is she dating you or a paycheck?
If you can identify with any of the above points, then yes you are a pussy-whipped pansy.
So what are you going to do about it –
Well, you have a few choices here.
Firstly Man up
NO, dickhead, this doesn’t mean slapping her and telling her, you’re the man, she’s the woman.
Its means being firm with her, and telling her, that the decision you’ve made is considered, and you do not need her approval at any stage.
No this does not mean, you sign you both up for additional debt, without her knowledge. Be practical, a $50 000 car loan is a no-no, a new shirt is a yes.
Will it work
This one is a little hard to navigate, you need to ask yourself a really hard question, “Will it work” between you both. maybe she’s heads above you, maybe she’s a little cray-cray. either way, you need to make the decision and get out. Make the tough decision and call it a day.
What do you really want?
If you want to live by the beach and sell ice creams for a living, then that’s great to do it. But what does she want, if she wants to live in a house in the burbs with kids, then it will not work, unless you are prepared to compromise.
I hope that this helps you a lot if you can see similar patterns in your own relationships, then maybe you should get the hell out now or at least talk to her about it.
Just remember women and men are very equal in all ways. But playing to each other strengths makes sense.